(sometimes also called a personal care aide)

is a non-medical professional who assists an elderly person in a way that allows them to live as independently as possible in their own home. Though caregivers are non-medical, some do have extra licensing and are referred to as home health aides. Apr 6, 2020

Duties and Responsibilities of Caregiver

An elder care caregiver (sometimes also called a personal care aide) is a non-medical professional who assists an elderly person in a way that allows them to live as independently as possible in their own home. Though caregivers are non-medical, some do have extra licensing and are referred to as home health aides. These home health aides do all the same things as the non-medical caregivers, but their extra training allows them to take a person’s vitals and work with those who have specialized care needs related to specific conditions or illnesses. The non-medical caregivers can also be part of a home care team that includes nurses or physical therapists if the person also requires medical care. Now let’s take a look at what a personal care aide can do for you or your elderly loved one.

Duties and Responsibilities

Caregiver duties and responsibilities can vary greatly as no two senior’s needs are the same. This may have to do with what stage of life the senior is in or how close or far away family lives. However, a caregiver’s main goal is to allow an elderly person to “age in place” safely and with a sense of independence. Duties range from assisting with hygiene to meal preparation. The following are just some of the many daily living tasks that an eldercare caregiver can do for you or your loved one.

Helping with Mobility

As we age, we lose the ability to move as freely as we once did. Many seniors are a fall risk and a caregiver is there to ensure that the senior is safe while moving about their home or even outside, helping them avoid injury. These caregivers can also help to transfer those who are less mobile, such as assisting someone with moving from a wheelchair to the toilet.

Ensuring Good Personal Hygiene and Care

With a loss in mobility, it can often become difficult to do daily living tasks, such as bathing, brushing your teeth, shaving and toileting. A caregiver is able to assist with these personal hygiene tasks whether it is offering assistance during bathing, brushing their hair, assisting with denture cleaning or helping a person get dressed.

Assisting with Meals and Nutrition

Many seniors’ appetites shrink as they age so it is key that the food they do eat is nutrient rich. It can also be harder on us to prepare meals as we age. A Personal caregiver can assist with meal preparation, ensuring that the food your loved one eats is nutritious and healthy and that sticks to a diet recommended by a doctor.

Housekeeping

A caregiver also offers basic cleaning and repair skills. They can help wash the dishes, unclog toilets, dust, change light bulbs and do the laundry.

Assisting with Medications and Medical Advocacy

While caregivers are non-medical, they can remind you or your loved one to take your medications properly and on time. They can also assist with ordering refills from the pharmacy, double checking that the medication dispensed is the correct medication and keeping track of when it is time to renew a prescription. Since caregivers spend so much time with their charges, they are also able to keep an eye out for any changes in the senior’s health and report those changes to a family member or a doctor. They can also ensure medical appointments are scheduled on time.

Companionship

When we get older, it can be hard to get out and socialize and do other activities as we once did. This can often cause feelings of isolation and depression. One of the other important roles a caregiver serves is as a companion. Caregivers offer friendly conversation and can help you do the things you love, such as play chess, garden or play the guitar. Relationships make a difference in our lives. Not only do they bring us joy and a sense of belonging, but relationships can also make a difference in how a senior fights against illness or whether or not they stick to a strict diet.

Transportation

Driving can become a safety issue for many seniors. Even taking public transit can become more difficult. Some caregivers offer transportation services. They can take seniors to social events, doctor appointments or run errands, such as shopping for groceries.

Is an Elder Care Personal Caregiver Right for You?

If you or your loved one are having difficulties with daily living activities or even if you just need some companionship, a caregiver is right for you. Don’t wait until you or your loved one needs help with all of these things. Caregivers give help where it is needed and step back when you or your loved one is able to do something independently. As needs change, their duties change or add on. Their goal is to ensure safety, health and happiness as a person ages in place, meaning that seniors can more fully enjoy their life while living at home.

Home care services to help you age in place

While it may be hard to accept, most of us will require some type of care assistance after the age of 65. You may be used to handling everything yourself, dividing up duties with your spouse, or relying on family members for minor help around the home. But as you get older and your circumstances change, getting around and taking care of yourself can become more and more difficult.

If the idea of moving to a retirement community, assisted living facility, or nursing home doesn’t appeal, home care services may be able to help keep you living in your own home for longer.

Home care services include:

Household maintenance. Keeping a household running smoothly takes a lot of work. If you’re finding it hard to keep up, you can look into laundry, shopping, gardening, housekeeping, and handyman services. If you’re having trouble staying on top of bills and appointments, financial and healthcare management may also be helpful.

Transportation. Transportation is a key issue for older adults. Maybe you’re finding it hard to drive or don’t like to drive at night. Having access to trains, buses, rideshare apps, reduced fare taxis, and senior transportation services can help prolong your independence and maintain your social network.

Home modifications. If your mobility is becoming limited, home modifications can go a long way towards keeping your existing residence comfortable and accessible. Modifications can include things such as grab bars in the shower, ramps to avoid or minimize the use of stairs, or even installing a new bathroom on the ground floor.

Personal care. Help with the activities of daily living, such as dressing, bathing, or meal preparation, is called personal or custodial care. Home health aides can provide personal care services that range from a few hours a day to around-the-clock live-in care. They may also provide limited assistance with things such as taking blood pressure or offering medication reminders.

Health care. Some healthcare services can be provided at home by trained professionals, such as occupational therapists, social workers, or home health nurses. Check with your insurance or health service to see what kind of coverage is available, although you may have to cover some cost out of pocket. Hospice care can also be provided at home.

Day programs. Day programs or adult daycare can help you keep busy with activities and socialization during the day, while providing a break for your caregivers. Some daycare programs are primarily social, while others provide limited health services or specialize in disorders such as early stage Alzheimer’s.

Is aging in place right for you?

It’s natural to want to stay at home as you grow older. The familiar can be comforting as we face the losses that inevitably come with aging, and your home is likely filled with fond memories and your neighborhood with familiar people. However, taking a step back to look at the big picture can help you decide whether staying at home for the long term truly is the right step for you.

Too often, decisions to leave home are made abruptly after a sudden loss or health crisis, making adjustments all the more painful and difficult. Earlier planning and examining which home care services are available can make it easier to make the choice that’s right for both you and your family.

Of course, everyone’s needs vary, depending on factors such as how much support you have, your general health and mobility, and your financial situation. Here are some of the issues to consider when evaluating your aging in place and home care options:

Location and accessibility. Where is your home located? Are you in a rural or suburban area that requires a lot of driving? If you’re in an area with more public transit, is it safe and easily accessible? How much time does it take you to get to services such as shopping or medical appointments? It’s also important to consider proximity to community services and activities.

Home accessibility and maintenance. Is your home easily modified? Does it have a lot of steps or a steep hill to access? Do you have a large yard that needs to be maintained?

Support available. Do you have family and friends nearby? How involved are they? Are they able to provide you the support you need? Many older adults prefer to rely on family to provide help, but as your needs increase, they might not be able to fill in all of the gaps. Caregiving can be physically and emotionally exhausting, especially if it is primarily on one person such as a spouse or child. Your relationships may be healthier if you are open to the idea of getting help from more than one source.

Isolation. If it becomes difficult or impossible for you to leave home without help, isolation can rapidly set in. You may not be able to participate in hobbies you once loved, stay involved in community service that kept you motivated, or visit with friends and family. Losing these connections and support is a recipe for depression.

Medical conditions. No one can predict the future. However, if you or your spouse has a chronic medical condition that is expected to worsen over time, it’s especially important to think about how you will handle health and mobility problems. What are common complications of your condition, and how will you handle them?

Finances. Making a budget with anticipated expenses can help you weigh the pros and cons of your situation. Alternate arrangements like assisted living can be expensive, but extensive in-home help can rapidly become expensive as well, especially at higher levels of care and live-in or 24-hour coverage.

Your family’s opinions. Naturally, you have the final decision as to where you want to live, but input from family members can be helpful. Are they worried about your safety or a health problem that will eventually require heavy care? Listening to concerns and keeping an open mind are key.

Aging in place vs. other types of senior housing

If you feel overwhelmed by the upkeep of your home, cut off from social amenities, or simply want more companionship with others your age, an independent living or retirement community may be a better option.

The housing is friendlier to aging adults and while residents live independently, most communities offer amenities and services. As the name suggests, independent living is more about making life easier rather than a loss of independence.

If you or your spouse have a lot of medical needs, though, you may be better off considering an assisted living facility or nursing home. For more information, read Senior Housing Options.

Coping with changes in your independence

It’s normal to feel confused, vulnerable, or even angry when you realize you can’t do the things you used to be able to do. You may feel guilty at the prospect of having to rely on outsiders to do things you’ve been used to doing for yourself. Or you may feel uncomfortable about having “strangers” in your home. By acknowledging these feelings and keeping your mind open to new ways to make life easier, you’ll not only cope with your change in situation better but may also be able to prolong other aspects of your independence for longer.

[Read: Aging Well]

Be patient with yourself. Losses are a normal part of aging and losing some of your independence is not a sign of weakness. Allow yourself to feel sad or frustrated about changes in your home care situation without beating yourself up or labeling yourself a failure.

Be open to new possibilities. Your loved ones may offer suggestions about home care services to make your life easier. Rather than dismissing them out of hand, try to keep an open mind and discuss the options. Sometimes, new experiences and situations can lead to you developing new friendships or discovering new possibilities.

Try a trial run of services. A trial run lets you have the chance to experience the benefits of home care services without having to commit to anything long-term.

Finding home care services

Once you’ve figured out your needs, it’s time to evaluate which home care services are right for you and where to find the best providers. Of course, it can be difficult to entrust your home or personal care to others, especially people you don’t know. Whether you engage a home care service provider directly or work through an agency, you can allay your fears by conducting some basic research.

Start by seeking referrals from family, friends, or neighbors. There may be a neighbor who could regularly check-in with you or provide yard maintenance, for example. Local religious groups sometimes offer meals or social activities for older adults. Ask the people you know if they have care providers they can recommend. Your doctor or other healthcare professional may also be able to provide referrals.

Full-service agencies usually come at a higher cost but provide prescreened applicants who have already had background checks. Since the caregiver works for the agency, they take care of billing and tax issues. They may also be bonded for issues such as theft. If a caregiver quits or is not working out, an agency can usually find a replacement quickly, and may also provide coverage if a caregiver calls in sick.

Independent providers usually come at a lower cost but require more legwork on your part. You’ll need to handle any tax requirements and perform background checks and identity verification. In the case of illness or sudden termination, you’ll also be responsible for finding a replacement provider.

Tips for hiring home care providers

How you go about hiring home care providers will partially depend on what kind of help you are looking for. Hiring someone to handle shopping or yard maintenance, for example, is different from hiring someone to provide hands-on or live-in personal care. However, there are some basic tips to keep in mind. Remember that the more time and homework you spend in the initial hiring process, the better the chances of success.

  • Conduct an in-depth interview with each candidate. Screening applicants on the phone should always be followed with an in-person interview.
  • Be specific about all of the tasks, skills, and schedules involved and be sure that the person you are considering is comfortable with them all.
  • Discuss compensation and payment schedules. Do not pay for services in advance.
  • Request several work and personal references and check them carefully. Verify the information provided, and ask all references about reliability, trustworthiness, punctuality, and the care provider’s ability to handle stress.
  • Perform background checks. If you’re working through an agency, these are often provided, but you’ll want to check exactly what is covered. Background checks can be done inexpensively through online agencies and alert you to potentially serious problems.
  • If you are working with an agency, make sure you understand what is covered. Are there additional fees that apply to specific services or add-ons? If needed, what are the procedures for termination or requesting another provider?
  • Don’t be afraid to move on if it’s not the right fit. It’s important that you feel comfortable with a home care provider who’s delivering services in the privacy of your own home. If you don’t, try talking to the provider to see if any miscommunication can be resolved. If not, don’t be afraid to look for another.

Talking to a loved one about home care services

It can be frightening and painful to see someone you love struggling to care for themselves. Perhaps you’ve noticed that your loved one’s home has become much messier than it used to be, or that they are wearing stained, dirty clothes. Maybe it’s clear that they haven’t had a bath for a while, or when you open the refrigerator, there’s hardly any food inside. Or perhaps your loved one has suffered a recent fall or you’ve seen a pan burning unattended on the stove.

Sometimes, declines can happen gradually or a sudden change in health or a significant loss can trigger problems. Whatever the reason, if you’re worried about a loved one’s safety or the condition of their home, it’s important to broach the subject carefully.

Express your concerns as your own, without accusing. An older loved one might be more open to your honest expressions of concern. For example, instead of saying “It’s clear you can’t take care of yourself anymore. Something needs to be done,” try “I’ve really been worried about you. It hurts me to think that you might not be getting everything you need. What do you think we should do?”

Respect your loved one’s autonomy and involve them in decisions. Unless your loved one is incapacitated, the final decision about care is up to them. You can help by offering suggestions and ideas for home care services. If you’re worried that home care might not be enough, what other options are available? You can frame it as something to try temporarily instead of trying to impose a permanent solution.

Try to find the real reasons behind any resistance. A loved one who’s resistant to receiving help could be frightened that they are no longer able to do tasks that were formerly so easy. It might be more comfortable to deny it and minimize any problems. Perhaps they’re grieving the loss of a loved one, or frustrated at not being able to connect with friends as easily as they once did. Or maybe they’re uncomfortable with the idea of having outsiders in their home.

Enlist the help of others. Does your loved one know others who have used home care services? Talking to others who have had positive experiences can sometimes help remove fear of the unknown. Sometimes hearing feedback from an unbiased third party, such as a doctor or geriatric care manager, can help a loved one realize that things need to change.

Home care services

Eldercare Locator – A national searchable database of community resources for elder care, from transportation to meals and home care. You can also call 1-800-677-1116. (US Department of Health and Human Services)

Find a Meals on Wheels Provider Near You – A searchable database that allows you to find a Meals on Wheels program in your area of the U.S. (Meals on Wheels Association of America)

Last updated or reviewed on June 10, 2024

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What Senior Companions Do

https://www.dhs.wisconsin.gov/aging/volunteer/sencompo.htm

Senior companions are people aged 60 or older. They provide help and company to other older adults who either:
• Are at risk of moving to a long-term care facility.
• Live alone.
• Must stay at home.

Senior companions often serve two to four clients. They volunteer 20 hours of service each week. They help clients:
• Do simple chores, such as:
o Pay bills.
o Shop for groceries.
o Drive or find transportation to medical appointments.
• Feel less lonely by being a friend.
• Relieve live-in caretakers for a short time with respite care.
• Take care of other services that older adults need to live on their own.

Many senior companions serve the same clients for many years. They become friends. The work adds meaning both to their life and the client’s life.

Tips for communicating with older patients

Effective communication can help build satisfying relationships with older patients to best manage their care. It can strengthen the patient-provider relationship, lead to improved health outcomes, help prevent medical errors, and make the most of limited interaction time.
Interpersonal communication skills are considered so important that they are a core competency
identified by the Accreditation Council for Graduate Medical Education and the American Board of Medical Specialties.

These key communication tips can help facilitate successful interactions with all of your patients, including older adults:
Speak to the patient as a fellow adult. Having physical, sensory, or cognitive impairments does not lessen the maturity of an adult patient. Those who are older might be used to more formal terms of address. Establish respect right away by using formal language as a default (such as Mr. or Ms.) and avoiding familiar terms, such as “dear,” which could be perceived as disrespectful. You or your staff can also ask patients how they prefer to be addressed.
Make older patients comfortable. Ask staff to ensure patients have a comfortable seat in the waiting room and, if necessary, help with filling out forms. Staff should check on them often if they have a long wait before they are seen. Patients with impaired mobility may need to be escorted to and from exam rooms, offices, restrooms, and the waiting area. They may require assistance with climbing on to the exam table or removing clothing or shoes.
Avoid hurrying older patients. Be mindful if you are feeling impatient with an older person’s pace. Some people may have trouble following rapid-fire questioning or torrents of information. Try speaking more slowly to give them time to process what is being asked or said, and don’t interrupt. Once interrupted, a patient is less likely to reveal all of their concerns. If time is an issue, you might suggest that your patients prepare a list of their health concerns in advance of appointments.
Speak plainly. Do not assume that patients know medical terminology. Use simple, common language and ask if clarification is needed. Check to be sure your patient understands the health issue, what they need to do, and why it is important to act.
Address the patient face-to-face. Don’t talk to patients with your back turned or while typing. Many people with hearing impairment understand better when they can read lips as well as listen. Watching a patient’s body language can also help you know whether they understand what you’re saying.
Write down or print out takeaway points. It can often be difficult for patients to remember everything discussed during an appointment. Older adults with more than one medical condition or health concern benefit especially from having clear and specific written notes or printed handouts. That way, they have information to review later about their health conditions, treatments, and other major points from visits.
Recognize that people from different backgrounds may have different expectations. Be sensitive to cultural differences that can affect communication with your patients. When needed, provide professional translation services and written materials in different languages.

Compensating for hearing deficits

Age-related hearing loss is common: About one-third of older adults have hearing loss, and the chance of developing hearing loss increases with age. Here are a few tips to make it easier to communicate with a person who may have difficulty hearing:
• Make sure your patient can hear you. Ask if the patient has a working hearing aid, look at the auditory canal for excess earwax, and be aware of background noises, such as whirring computers and office equipment.
• Talk clearly and in a normal tone. Shouting or speaking in a raised voice distorts language sounds and can give the impression of anger, and a high-pitched voice can be hard to hear.
• Face the person directly, at eye level, so that they can lip read or pick up visual clues.
• Indicate to your patient when you are changing the subject, such as by pausing briefly, speaking a bit louder, gesturing toward what will be discussed, gently touching the patient, or asking a question.
• Keep a notepad handy so you can write down important points, such as diagnoses, treatments, and important terms.
• Use amplification devices if they are available in your clinic or hospital.
• If your patient has difficulty hearing the difference between certain letters and numbers, give context for them. For instance, “m as in Mary” or “five, six” instead of “56.” Be especially careful with letters that sound alike.

Compensating for visual deficits

Visual disorders become more common as people age. Here are some things you can do to help manage the difficulties in communication that can result from visual deficits:
• Make sure there is adequate lighting, including sufficient light on your face. Try to minimize glare.
• Check that your patient has brought and is wearing eyeglasses or contact lenses, if needed.
• Make sure that handwritten instructions are clear. When using printed materials, make sure the type is large enough (at least 14-point font) and the typeface is easy to read.
• If your patient has trouble reading because of low vision, consider providing alternatives, such as audio instructions, large pictures or diagrams, and large pillboxes with raised markings.

Families and caregivers as part of the health care team

Family members and other informal caregivers play a significant role in the lives of their loved ones. They may provide transportation and accompany an older adult to medical appointments. In many cases, they act as facilitators to help the patient express concerns and can reinforce the information you give. But first, to protect and honor patient privacy, check with the patient by asking how they see the companion’s role in the appointment.

It is important to keep the patient involved in their own health care and conversation. Whenever possible, try to sit so that you can address both the patient and companion face-to-face. Be mindful not to direct your remarks only to the companion.

You might ask the companion to step out of the exam room during part of the visit so you can raise sensitive topics and provide the patient some private time if they wish to discuss personal matters. For example, if you’re conducting a test of a patient’s cognitive abilities, you might ask the companion to step out so they can’t answer questions or cover for the patient’s cognitive lapses.

Some patients may ask that you contact their long-distance caregivers to discuss conditions or treatment plans. Make sure these patients fill out any necessary paperwork giving permission for you to speak with specific family members or friends if they are not present at the appointment.

Families may want to make decisions for a loved one. Adult children especially may want to step in for a parent who has cognitive impairment. If a family member has been named the health care agent or proxy, under some circumstances they have the legal authority to make care decisions. However, without this authority, the patient is responsible for making their own choices. When necessary, set clear boundaries with family members and encourage others to respect them.

Consider caregivers as “hidden patients”
Family caregivers face many emotional, financial, and physical challenges. They often provide help with household chores, transportation, and personal care, in addition to juggling their own jobs and families. Many also give medications, injections, and other treatments and may need advice or guidance on how to provide such medical care.
Caregivers often have their own health issues to manage as well. For example, they tend to have a higher risk of physical and mental health issues, sleep problems, and chronic conditions such as high blood pressure. It makes sense to view informal caregivers as “hidden patients” and to be alert for signs of illness, stress, and burnout. The long-term demands of caregiving tax the health of the caregiver and can also lead to unintentional elder abuse. Advise caregivers to talk with their own health care providers if they need help.

Caregivers may find it hard to make time for themselves, and your support and praise can help to sustain them. Encourage them to seek respite care so they can take a break to recharge. Colleagues such as social workers and other interdisciplinary team members may be able to recommend resources for caregivers.

Obtaining a thorough history

Obtaining a complete medical history — including current and past concerns, lifestyle, and family history — is crucial to good health care.
You may need to be especially flexible when obtaining the medical history of older patients. When possible, have the patient tell their story only once, even if other health care professionals in the office or home would typically assist in gathering the information. The process of providing their history to another staff member and then again to you can be tiring for patients.

Open-ended questions encourage a more comprehensive response, but yes-or-no or simple-choice questions may be helpful if the patient has trouble responding. Also be sure to ask if anything in a person’s health, medications, or lifestyle has changed since their last visit. You may want to get a detailed life and medical history as an ongoing part of older patients’ office visits and use each visit to add to and update information.

Here are some strategies for obtaining a thorough history:
• Gather preliminary data. If feasible, request previous medical records or ask the patient or a family member to complete forms and worksheets at home or online prior to the appointment. Try to structure questionnaires for easy reading by using large type (at least 14-point font) and providing enough space between items for thorough responses. Keep any questionnaires meant to be filled out in the waiting room as brief as possible.
• Elicit current concerns. Older patients tend to have multiple chronic conditions. You might start the session by asking your patient to talk about their main concern. For example, “What brings you in today?” or “What is bothering you the most?”
• Ask prompting questions. The main concern may not be the first one mentioned, especially if it is a sensitive topic. Asking, for example, “Is there anything else?”, which you may have to ask more than once, helps to get all of the patient’s concerns on the table at the beginning of the visit. If there are too many concerns to address in one visit, plan with the patient to address some now and others next time. Encourage the patient (and their caregivers) to bring a written list of concerns and questions to a follow-up appointment.
• Discuss medications. Older people often take many medications prescribed by several different doctors and some drug interactions can lead to major complications. Suggest that patients bring a list of all of their prescription medications, over-the-counter drugs, vitamins, and dietary supplements, including the dosage and frequency of each. Or suggest that they bring everything with them in a bag. Check to ensure the patient is using each medication as directed.
• Ask about family history. The family history not only indicates the patient’s likelihood of developing some diseases but also provides information about the health of relatives who care for the patient or who might do so in the future. Knowing the family structure will help you evaluate what support may be available from family members.
• Ask about functional status. The ability to perform basic activities of daily living (ADLs) reflects and affects a patient’s health. There are standardized ADL assessments that can be done quickly in the office. Understanding an older patient’s usual level of functioning and learning about any recent significant changes are fundamental to providing appropriate health care.
• Consider a patient’s life and social history. Ask about where they live, who else lives in the home or nearby, neighborhood safety, their driving status, and access to transportation. Determine eating habits, assess their mood, and ask about tobacco, drug, and alcohol use. Factor in typical daily activities and work, education, and financial situations. Understanding a person’s life and daily routine can help you to understand how your patient’s lifestyle might affect their health care and to devise realistic, appropriate interventions.

Discussing medical conditions and treatments

Approximately 85% of older adults have at least one chronic health condition, and 60% have at least two chronic conditions. Clinicians can play an important role in educating patients and families about chronic health conditions and can connect them with appropriate community resources and services.

Most older patients want to understand their medical conditions and learn how to manage them. Likewise, family members and other caregivers can benefit from having this information. Physicians typically underestimate how much patients want to know and overestimate how long they spend giving information to patients. Devoting more attention to educating patients and their caregivers can improve patients’ adherence to treatment, increase patients’ well-being, and save you time in the long run.

Clear explanations of diagnoses are critical. Uncertainty about a health problem can be upsetting, and when patients do not understand their medical conditions, they are less likely to follow their treatment plans. It is helpful to begin by finding out what the patient understands about their condition, what they think will happen, and how much more they want to know. Based on the patient’s responses, you can correct any misconceptions and provide appropriate information.

Treatment plans need to involve patients’ input and consent. Ask about their goals and preferences for care and focus on what matters most to them. Check in with your patient about feasibility and acceptability throughout the process, thinking in terms of joint problem-solving and collaborative care. This approach can increase the patient’s satisfaction while reducing demands on your time.

Treatment might involve lifestyle changes, such as a more nutritious diet and regular exercise, as well as medication. Tailor the plan to the patient’s situation and lifestyle and try to reduce disruption to their routine. Keep medication plans as simple and straightforward as possible, indicating the purpose of each medication and when it should be taken. Tell the patient what to expect from the treatment.

These tips may help discussions about medical conditions and treatment plans:
• A doctor’s advice generally receives the greatest credence, so the doctor should introduce treatment plans. Other medical team members can help build on the doctor’s original instructions.
• Let your patients know that you welcome questions. Tell them how to follow up if they think of any additional questions later.
• Some patients won’t ask questions even if they want more information. Consider making information available even if it’s not explicitly requested.
• Offer information through more than one channel. In addition to talking with the patient, you can use fact sheets, drawings, models, or videos. In many cases, referrals to websites and support groups can be helpful.
• Encourage the patient or caregiver to take notes. It’s helpful to offer a pad and pencil. Active involvement in recording information may help your patient better retain information and adhere to the treatment plan.
• Repeat key points about the health problem and treatment plan at every office visit, providing oral and written instructions, and check that the patient and their caregiver understand the information.
• Provide encouragement and continued reinforcement for treatment or necessary lifestyle changes. Call attention to the patient’s strengths and offer ideas for improvement.
• Make it clear that a referral to another doctor, if needed, does not mean you are abandoning the patient.

Confusion and cognitive problems

A patient may still seem confused despite your best efforts to communicate clearly. In those instances, work to:
• Support and reassure the patient, acknowledging when responses are correct or understood.
• Make it clear that the conversation is not a “test” but rather a search for information to help the patient.
• Consider having someone from your staff call the patient to follow up on instructions.
Cognitive impairment, however, is more than general confusion or normal cognitive aging. If you observe changes in an older patient’s cognition or memory, follow up with screening and diagnostic testing, as appropriate.

There are a variety of possible causes of cognitive problems, such as side effects from medications, metabolic and/or endocrine changes, delirium, or untreated depression. Some of these causes can be temporary and reversed with proper treatment. Other causes of cognitive problems, such as Alzheimer’s disease, are chronic conditions but may be treated with medications or nondrug therapies. Having an accurate diagnosis also can help families wanting to improve the person’s quality of life and better prepare for the future.

Read more about Assessing Cognitive Impairment in Older Patients and Caring for Older Patients With Cognitive Impairment.

Sensitive topics

Caring for an older patient requires discussing sensitive topics related to safety, independence, and health. Older patients may be hesitant to bring up certain problems and other concerns such as:
• Advance care planning
• Driving
• Elder abuse
• End of life
• Health care costs
• Long-term care
• Mental health issues, such as depression
• Sexuality and sexual health
• Social isolation and loneliness
• Substance use/misuse, including alcohol
• Urinary incontinence
There are techniques for broaching sensitive subjects that can help you successfully start the conversation. Try to take a universal, nonthreatening approach that frames the subject as a common concern of many older patients (such as, “Many people experience …” or “Some people taking this medication have trouble with…”). You can also share anecdotes about patients in similar circumstances, though always clearly maintaining patient confidentiality, to ease your patient into the discussion.
Some patients will still avoid issues that they think are inappropriate to discuss with clinicians. One way to overcome this hesitation is to keep informative brochures and materials readily available in the exam room and waiting areas.

You may also be interested in

• Exploring healthy aging and dementia resources for health care professionals
• Finding Alzheimer’s and related dementias resources for professionals
• Learning about providing care to a diverse older adult population
This content is provided by the NIH National Institute on Aging (NIA). NIA scientists and other experts review this content to ensure it is accurate and up to date.
Content reviewed: January 25, 2023

Senior Companion Care

People often confuse caregivers as a person who specializes in either health or cleaning services. However companion caregivers are neither of these, explains Baldwin.
“Depending on the person’s needs, a caregiver can be like a friend a person can emotionally rely on,” he says. “If the person has mobility problems, a caregiver can also help them move around or do general housework.”

It’s important to understand that companions for seniors do not provide medical assistance. However, Ferri explains that the duties they do perform — basic yet valuable tasks for seniors who are largely independent — cover more than what people think. These can include:

  • Helping with errands: Think grocery shopping, medical transport to doctor’s appointments and trips to the pharmacy.
  • Household tasks: This might include laundry, washing dishes, vacuuming, dusting, cooking and meal preparation.
  • Organizing their living space or home: And keeping it that way for safety’s sake.
  • Keeping family in the loop: They offer correspondence to loved ones who are concerned and want to check in.
  • Helping to keep a senior engaged and entertained: They might partake in activities like cards, games, watching movies, knitting, coloring, crafts and other ways to fill the time.
  • Overseeing plans and scheduling: This could involve social activities within the home on an individual basis or outings within the community at senior centers or recreation centers locally.

How companion care services differ from home health aide work

Companion caregivers conduct basic activities with a senior. Gail Weatherill, a registered nurse who works to support dementia caregivers and provided companion care to a family friend, explains that in home health, there are three levels of caregivers:

  1. Companions.
  2. Nurses aides.
  3. Licensed nurses.

Companions provide supervision to ensure safety as well as help “alongside” tasks that do not require hands-on intervention. “Unlike other levels of caregivers, there is no special training required to be a companion and their care is not regulated by state or federal law,” she says. “There are no certification or licensing programs for becoming a companion.”

Although laws vary from state to state, Weatherill explains that the main difference between companions and other levels of home health care is whether or not the client needs “hands-on” care. “Tasks like toileting, bathing and feeding require hands-on intervention,” she explains. “These would not be routine tasks for a companion.”

How companions for seniors can help

Companions can provide critical social interaction for seniors. No matter how physically capable a senior is, there are many health concerns that stem from loneliness, boredom and isolation, especially as a person ages, explains Ferri. “So having companion care is a wonderful way to prevent those issues from occurring while ensuring your loved one’s safety,” she says.

And even for seniors who are dealing with the mid-to-late stages of dementia, this type of engagement has been shown to help slow decline in cognitive skills, says Weatherill. “The client’s sense of well-being gets a boost from the extra attention,” she notes.

There are also many small tasks that we may not think much about but are crucial to an older person, Baldwin adds. These include simple reminders like making sure to take medicine or getting assistance with transportation to meet a friend. “The pandemic exacerbated these problems, with many seniors still facing social isolation by themselves,” he adds. “Companion care has become critical to combat loneliness and depression.”

But having this dependable companion, however frequently or infrequently you schedule them, doesn’t just benefit your aging senior. “If family members or friends are not geographically close enough to their loved one, companion carers can assure them that their loved one is safe and enjoying their time at home,” Ferri says. And this way, when you visit, you can spend quality time with your aging loved one instead of doing housework.

How to hire a companion caregiver

If you are looking for someone who can provide this type of care routinely, Weatherill warns that it can be a challenge. She attributes this to the growing senior population driving demand higher.

That said, Weatherill says it’s best to “cast one’s net wide” while pursuing multiple avenues at once, including:

Contacting local home health and nursing agencies or assisted living facilities. They are the most common source of finding companion care.

Looking at caregiver listings on Care.com as well as on Craigslist, Facebook or in local print media. Families may opt to go this route and directly hire a companion to avoid the heavy overhead costs of using an agency, explains Weatherill. However, Ferri notes that “it’s usually best to go through an organization since they vet their employees or contractors via background checks, safety training and more.”

Going by word of mouth. Asking friends, family and members of your community groups if they know anyone seeking companion work can be a successful way to find a trusted and reliable companion.

Looking to the local social worker’s office or local agencies on aging. “Some provide counseling on the best ways to find local care,” says Weatherill. You can find your local agency through the National Association of Area Boards on Aging.

Considering volunteers. According to Baldwin, you can find many volunteers take on these responsibilities by approaching churches and universities and asking if they have programs to help the elderly.

Baldwin says there’s no one way to approach companion care because one senior’s needs are different from another’s. “Whether you’re thinking about hiring someone or finding a volunteer, you should always measure the quality of the companion care against the needs of the person being cared for and their level of independence,” he adds.

Bottom line: Companion care is not the solution to every single need a person needs, reminds Baldwin, but it can be priceless for a mostly independent senior who is aging without a spouse, family or close friends nearby.

In-home caregivers provide a vital service for older adults and their families, and it’s important to make sure pay is in line with the going rates in your area. The cost of care calculator can help you find an average base rate for senior caregiver pay in your state. Keep in mind that cost of living, job duties, experience level and other factors can all impact the in-home caregiver pay rate. Most importantly, be sure to stay updated as rates change over time.

Checklist: Emergency Preparedness for Seniors

Marlo Sollitto

Emergency kits usually include standard supplies like non-perishable food, drinking water, batteries and first aid equipment. But, if you have elderly or disabled relative living with you or nearby, there are some additional considerations to make when it comes to emergency preparedness for senior citizens.

Every area of the world is prone to certain dangerous events. Hurricanes, tornadoes, wildfires, earthquakes, landslides, floods and winter storms are real threats for millions of people each year. Planning and preparing for the possibility of severe weather or a natural disaster is crucial for safety and survival.

What to Include in a Senior Emergency Kit

1. Mobility Aids

If your elder has limited mobility or is bedbound or wheelchair bound, make detailed plans for how they will get around and evacuate their home if necessary. For example, if your parent uses a motorized wheelchair to get around, be sure to have a manual wheelchair on hand as a backup.

2. Durable Medical Equipment

Most emergency shelters do not have durable medical equipment (DME) available on site, so seniors must bring their own. This includes therapeutic oxygen equipment, mobility aids, blood sugar monitors, CPAP devices, specialized cushions to prevent skin breakdown and any other portable DME your loved one requires to maintain their health.

3. Visual Aids

For a loved one who is blind or visually impaired, keep an extra cane by their bed and attach a whistle to it. Remind them to exercise caution when moving during or immediately after an emergency, as items in the home may have shifted and paths may have become obstructed. Be sure to include an extra pair of glasses or other necessary visual aids in your loved one’s emergency kit.

4. Personal Care Products and Sanitation Supplies

Seniors often require specific supplies to ensure their personal hygiene and comfort. Stocking up on necessary items, such as incontinence supplies (e.g., adult briefs, pads, wet wipes, barrier creams, catheter and ostomy supplies), bathing products, latex gloves, toilet paper and commode liners, will help ensure their fundamental daily routine and quality of care change as little as possible during and after an emergency situation. Don’t forget supplies like face masks, garbage bags, paper towels, disinfectant spray or wipes, hand sanitizer, etc.

5. Hearing Aids

Individuals who are hearing impaired should keep extra batteries for hearing aids with their emergency supplies. When not in use, store hearing aids in a container in a designated space, such as the senior’s nightstand, so they can be located quickly in the event of an emergency.

6. ID, Legal and Health Information

Keep copies of important identification and health documents on hand in an emergency folder for yourself and your care recipient. Bringing your driver’s license or ID card and insurance cards is ideal, but copies are better than nothing. Other important papers to include in this file are copies of power of attorney (POA) documents, advance directives and a complete medication list. If you must evacuate, bringing copies of the deed or lease to one’s home, insurance policies and similar papers may be a good idea as well.

7. Prescription Medications

Talk to your loved one’s doctor about obtaining an extra week’s supply of all their prescription medications. This will help your loved one stick to their regimen despite inclement weather and closed or inaccessible pharmacies. Just keep in mind that prescription and over-the-counter medications do have shelf lives. Dispose of any expired medications in emergency kits accordingly.

8. First Aid Kit

Include a complete first aid kit and manual in your emergency supplies bag.

9. A Communication Plan

Your family and friends may not be together when disaster strikes, so make a plan for how you will contact one another or determine a safe place where you all can meet if traveling is feasible. Keep in mind that roads may be unsafe and internet and phone lines may be down for some time, depending on the situation.
Make a list of important phone numbers for family, friends, local shelters and aid organizations, and your loved one’s other care team members to include in your emergency file.

10. An Emergency Care Plan

If a senior receives in-home care services or resides at a long-term care facility, be sure to ask their care providers about their protocol for emergency situations. For example, find out up to what point home health aides will still come to your loved one’s home to provide care or when, where and how your loved one’s senior living facility evacuates residents. Don’t forget to create backup plans to help you pivot quickly in changing circumstances.

Creating an Emergency Plan Helps Keep You Safe and Calm

If your aging relative has Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia, know that even seniors who are cognitively impaired have an innate understanding that something is wrong in emergency situations. Explain what is happening in easy-to-understand terms, but don’t expect them to remember specific details. Validate their concerns but try to keep them as calm as possible. Provide clear direction without being condescending or losing patience.

Creating a comprehensive emergency plan and disaster supplies kit is crucial for ensuring you and your family are well prepared for potentially dangerous situations. Not only do these things help you practically and logistically, but they also help you feel more confident and therefore calmer.

For more tips on how to prepare for common emergencies and types of natural disasters that are specific to your area, visit the Red Cross website.

How to Help Seniors Keep Their Home Clean and Decluttered

Liz RegaliaUpdated on: February 7, 2024

Clutter can creep up on any of us during a busy week. But for seniors, physical and cognitive changes can make daily house cleaning and organizing tasks hard to keep up with despite having time to devote to them.

“With aging, there is an increased likelihood of having more mobility problems such as arthritis, pain and also vision issues,” says Claudia Wong, a board certified family nurse practitioner based in Santa Monica, California. “This makes it harder to do things such as kneel down and scrub a floor or climb up to the top shelf to organize items. They are also quicker to become fatigued.”

Whether you’re focused on spring cleaning or have noticed that your senior is struggling to keep up with their house cleaning and organization, here’s how experts say you can help seniors keep their home neat and tidy.

How to declutter a senior’s space before a house cleaning

Safety is always the first concern when it comes to keeping a clean home for seniors. A messy household can cause tripping hazards, which could lead to medical problems, emphasizes Wong. So, step number one? Declutter.

“One of the hardest things to do as we get older is to part with things we think we need to keep,” says Ann Kriebel-Gasparro, who holds her doctor of nursing practice and is a family and gerontological nurse practitioner who provides in-home health care for elderly patients.

Here’s where to start to help seniors declutter:

Get rid of hazards

Items that can trip seniors up include stacks of newspapers, loose cords and unsecured rugs, and these are some of the first things that need to go or be addressed, says Wong.

Professional organizer and family caregiver Carrie Kauffman recommends placing cord organizers beneath all electronics and lamps to keep them contained.

She also stresses the importance of having slip-resistant pads underneath all rugs. That said, if a rug is truly a tripping hazard, you need to remove it and tell them why, she notes.

Dispose of expired food in the fridge and pantry

When Kauffman visits her aging in-laws, she makes it a point to check the dates on items in the fridge, as well as for freezer burn on items in the freezer. Kauffman recommends doing this with your loved ones so they know what they are losing, especially if your older loved ones like shopping in bulk.

“I like to remind them: ‘It’s not a sale if you buy it, and it goes to waste,’” she says. Ditching expired goods not only ensures they don’t get sick from eating it, but makes the fridge, freezer and pantry easier to clean.

“To really help seniors downsize, give them a reason why someone else needs it instead.”
— Carrie Kauffman, professional organizer and family caregiver

Donate items that are not being used

To help seniors feel comfortable parting with extraneous items around the house, Kauffman recommends not speaking in terms of “throwing out” things.

“To really help seniors downsize, give them a reason why someone else needs it instead,” she explains. She suggests choosing a place to donate items that has a personal connection to them. “Whether it’s the veteran charity, a children’s hospital or the church they attend, it’s easier to part with things when we care about who is receiving them.”

Give old rooms a new purpose

As immediate family members move out and start families of their own, older adults can be left with spare rooms. “When there is no purpose for a space, it just becomes a place for things to go,” says Tanisha Lyons-Porter, a professional organizer and owner of Natural Born Organizers.

To prevent clutter from gathering in vacant corners of the house, Lyons-Porter recommends coming up with new uses for old rooms. “Sit down and dream with them about what they wish they had,” she explains. “What activity would they like to have more space to do? It could be as simple as someone who loves plants turning a spare room into a sunroom full of plants. Then, suddenly, that room has a purpose other than collecting clutter.”

Designate set days for certain cleaning tasks

“We find routines and schedules incredibly important in all aspects of caregiving life,” says caregiver Danielle DiBlasi, who has been caring for her father full-time for over four years. “Doing these things on set days helps him remember when he needs to do things and provide a general upkeep of his area so we don’t have to do everything on one day.”

If a senior loved one lives alone, you can still adopt this tip by creating a daily cleaning schedule and putting it on the fridge.

Hire a monthly cleaning service

Deep cleaning tasks are often the ones that require more physical effort and energy. As a caregiver, DiBlasi ensures these still get done without relying on her father or needing to do them on her own by hiring a housekeeper to come to her home once a month to do a deep clean of her father’s room and bathroom.

How to help seniors get organized

With less clutter and a focus on items and areas of the house that get the most use, bringing order becomes far easier. Here are simple ways caregivers can help seniors get — and stay — organized.

Repair anything that is broken

Whether it’s a loose cabinet hinge or a leaky dishwasher, fixing things that are no longer functioning properly is the number one place to start to help seniors get organized, according to Porter-Lyons.

To help seniors stay on top of addressing repairs, Porter-Lyons suggests printing a list of plumbers, carpenters and other maintenance workers and posting it in plain sight so it’s easily accessible. That way if something breaks, repairs are not put off.

“What activity would they like to have more space to do? Someone who loves plants may want to turn a spare room into a sunroom full of plants. Then, suddenly, that room has a purpose other than collecting clutter.”
—Tanisha Lyons-Porter, owner of Natural Born Organizers

Store medications by user, dose and schedule

When it comes to organizing medications for seniors, Kauffman encourages people to forgo the medicine cabinet and embrace labels and clear bins. “I label clear bins separately by name,” she says in regards to her mother-in-law and father-in-law who live together. “We also label the top of each medication.”

For example, one label may read: “Take at 3 a.m. daily.” Group medications by schedule, keeping daily in the front of the bin, weekly behind it and so on. That way, seniors can see at a glance every morning what they need to take.

Prioritize everyday items

To help seniors get organized, Porter-Lyons recommends caregivers start by asking this question: What can’t you get through the day without looking for?

“Everything else needs to be removed to simplify and keep life easier to maintain,” she says. This should be done in every room of the house. For example, move only the clothes they wear most often to the front of the closet and only the ingredients they need to make a healthy meal to the counter.

Be sure essential items are visible

If the person you are caring for has memory issues, keeping essentials easily accessible is even more important, stresses DiBlasi. “If a room is cluttered or items are not always found in the same reliable spot, seniors with memory issues will have a hard time finding necessary items, which will cause them stress,” says DiBlasi.

In her experience, these are the top items to keep visible:

  • Cell phone. Seniors need to always be able to call someone if they need assistance.
  • Cell phone chargers. “We keep multiple chargers around the house so he can charge it at any time depending on which room he’s in,” says DiBlasi.
  • A clock with the day of the week on it. Keeping track of days and time can get confusing for seniors so keeping one of these in the bedroom helps.
  • TV remote control. “We have a table next to my dad’s armchair where we always keep this so he doesn’t lose it,” says DiBlasi.

Label pantry and laundry room items

Noticing her aging loved ones’ vision becoming more compromised, Kauffman took time to label everything in their home — from salt and sugar, to bleach and laundry detergent. Then, she placed items that could get mixed up far apart from each other.

“We added bold labels to be sure they can see the difference,” Kauffman says.

Streamline linen and bedroom closets

You might clear out items that seniors aren’t using on a weekly basis. This not only cuts down on the amount of laundry that will need to be done but also ensures it can’t pile up. “Minimalism is the key,” says Kauffman.

For older adults who can no longer do all the chores around the house and cannot downsize to a senior assisted living facility, caregivers should look for a reputable housekeeping service.
—Ann Kriebel-Gasparro, a family and gerontological nurse practitioner

Create a portable mail file

From Medicare to supplemental insurance and healthcare notices, seniors get a lot of important information through the mail. Kauffman suggests creating a folder or file for every senior in the home to store all the mail that comes with their name on it. This ensures important documents don’t get lost, and makes it easier for caregivers to be sure no important correspondence is missed since they can easily check the file when visiting.
​​How to know when to help your senior loved one with house cleaning and organization

If you’re still unsure if it’s time to step in and help an older loved one with tidying up or decluttering, consider the following red flags shared by DiBlasi:

  • They wear the same outfit multiple days in a row.
  • Their hygiene is noticeably in need of attention.
  • They are telling you they can’t find important items or you notice they are regularly missing must-haves like glasses, hearing aids, etc.
  • They are missing trash day, and trash is accumulating at the house.
  • They are not opening their mail and may have overdue bills.
  • Their lawn is not cared for as well as it once was.

If your loved one is in need of help, it can be challenging to insert yourself. “I recommend having a conversation with them about how they think things are going and asking them how you could best support them,” says DiBlasi.

Start by trying the steps above. “If things don’t change for the better, you will need to be more proactive about providing assistance for them.”

Here a few ways to provide extra assistance:

Hire a regular housekeeping service

For older adults who can no longer do all the chores around the house and cannot downsize to a senior assisted living facility, caregivers should look for a reputable housekeeping service, says Kriebel-Gasparro. This will keep clutter at bay and ensure the most frequented parts of the house are being cleaned regularly.

Create a network of support

Form a plan with siblings or other caregivers to create a team of people who understands the extra support needed for your aging loved one, says DiBlasi. Then, you can delegate tasks.

Set up a grocery or meal delivery service

If your aging loved one is no longer able to get out to the store on a weekly basis and has a habit of letting bulk food buys go to waste, consider ordering the foods they eat on a regular basis from their favorite grocer or consider meal delivery services.

What to keep in mind when helping out with a senior’s house cleaning

The experts we spoke with agree that adopting a minimalist living approach is best for helping seniors keep their home clean and organized. The first best step: Get rid of hazardous and unneeded items. Then, focus on creating organizational systems. Both moves will result in a happier, healthier household.

Personal History – Write Your Own Story

Questions to Help You Get Started

  1. Write about your name. Where did it come from? What does it mean?
  2. When and where were you born?
  3. Write about your mom. What would you like people to know?
  4. Write about your dad. What would you like people to know?
  5. Do you have siblings? Write about them.
  6. Where did you grow up? What do you remember about this place?
  7. Think about your house growing up. What was it like?
  8. What was your childhood bedroom like?
  9. What was your favorite activity as a child?
  10. What was your favorite place as a child?
  11. Who were your friends as a child?
  12. Did you travel as a child? What were your favorite places to visit?
  13. What did a typical day look like as a child?
  14. What did a typical day look like as a teen?
  15. What was high school like for you?
  16. What world events were significant to you as a child?
  17. Write about your grandparents.
  18. Write about your aunts.
  19. Write about your uncles.
  20. Write about your cousins.
  21. Write about your early school memories.
  22. What was your favorite subject in school?
  23. Who was your favorite teacher as a child?
  24. Did you move as a child? Write about it.
  25. Who taught you to drive?
  26. What was your favorite food as a child?
  27. Write about your most memorable birthday?
  28. How did you typically celebrate your birthday?
  29. Write about your favorite holiday memory.
  30. What was the hardest part about growing up?
  31. What was the best part about growing up?
  32. When did you first leave home? Write about the experience.
  33. What did your parents do for work?
  34. What was your first job?
  35. What is your favorite family story?
  36. Write about a funny story that has been passed down through the generations.
  37. What were you most proud of as a child?
  38. What did you want to be/do when you grew up? Did you become it?
  39. Who inspired you as you matured?
  40. What job has been your favorite?
  41. What was the best part of your 20s?
  42. What was the best part of your 30s?
  43. Are you in a relationship? How did you meet your significant other?
  44. Did you have any boy/girlfriends as a youth? Write about them.
  45. Do you have kids? Write about them.
  46. What are you most proud of as an adult?
  47. Where is the most fascinating place you’ve visited?
  48. What is one thing about today that you never want to forget?
  49. What item will you cross off your bucket list next?
  50. What advice would you give your younger self?

The Swedish Art of Aging Exuberantly

By Stacey Lindsay

Margareta Magnusson casts a bright light on how to live fully. Her first book, the 2018 international bestseller The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning, waxes about döstädning, the Swedish term for clearing out the clutter to allow you—and your loved ones—more freedom and joy.

Now Magnusson is back with a new book, The Swedish Art of Aging Exuberantly, which is true to its title. With every piece of wisdom, the author and lauded artist is unsentimental and funny. She’s also straightforward. She shares that her latest book came to be during the dark, death-laden days of lockdown. “In writing during that time, I was forced to look at what made each day worth living,” she writes.

We recently called Magnusson in Sweden, her home country to which she returned after having lived all over the world as an artist, to get more of her tips for growing older “exuberantly,” as she puts it. The author, who is in her late 80s, had been fielding a lot of media requests around the time we called, so she admitted to being a little tired. But still, reveling in it all. “At my age, it is all a bit too much sometimes, but I am very happy and I am very grateful.”

#1: See aging as “great.”

When we view aging with fear or regret, “that is a problem,” says Magnusson. Because if you’re not sick, aging is just great.” This isn’t a Pollyannaish statement, however. The author says it is up to you to “work on yourself” to view getting older as a positive. “Don’t be sad about aging. It’s a pity if people do that.”

#2: Stay open-minded.

One of Magnusson’s greatest hits of wisdom was born from regret. “I must admit, I have not been open-minded all the time. I wish I had been,” she writes. When we asked her to elaborate, she told us that it’s critical to always look around, engage with people, and listen to what’s happening in the world. “Don’t close yourself in,” she adds. “To be open-minded is important.”

#3: Find beauty, especially when things are hard.

Magnusson recounts times of living in fear, from personal tragedies to global public ones. How has she kept her head up when the world feels like it’s crumbling? we asked her. For one, we must face that there is always hardship in the world, she says. When you have gotten this old, as old as I am, you have to face that story enough.” And we also need to lean into joy and beauty. “We have to try to be happy with the small things around,” she adds. All the flowers on my balcony. The little things like that. When you look at that, it makes everything much easier.”

#4: Keep young friends.

“This is something I appreciate,” Magnusson says of spending time with those who are much younger than her. “It’s just wonderful. [Young people] look at things in different ways. They are open-minded, really. You have to listen to them. Even if you don’t think just like they do, it’s good to know what they think and what they appreciate.”

“And it’s a lot of fun, too.”

#5: Indulge—and boogie!

“You must have fun,” the artist mandates. How does she do this? Ideally, on the dance floor. “I’m sorry to say that I don’t walk very well. Otherwise, I would have still been dancing a lot,” she tells us.

But for this, she has a consolation—a good one. “Eat chocolate. And take a gin and tonic.

Aging Well

Staying healthy and feeling your best is important at any age. These tips can help you cope with the changes that accompany growing older—and live life to the fullest.

By Melinda Smith, M.A., Jeanne Segal, Ph.D. and Monika White, Ph.D.

The keys to healthy aging

As we grow older, we experience an increasing number of major life changes, including career transitions and retirement, children leaving home, the loss of loved ones, physical and health challenges—and even a loss of independence. How we handle and grow from these changes is often the key to healthy aging.

Coping with change is difficult at any age and it’s natural to feel the losses you experience. However, by balancing your sense of loss with positive factors, you can stay healthy and continue to reinvent yourself as you pass through landmark ages of 60, 70, 80, and beyond.

As well as learning to adapt to change, healthy aging also means finding new things you enjoy, staying physically and socially active, and feeling connected to your community and loved ones. Unfortunately, for many of us aging also brings anxiety and fear. How will I take care of myself late in life? What if I lose my spouse? What is going to happen to my mind?

Many of these fears stem from popular misconceptions about aging. But the truth is that you are stronger and more resilient than you may realize. These tips can help you maintain your physical and emotional health and continue to thrive, whatever your age or circumstances.

Myths about healthy aging

Myth: Aging means declining health and/or disability.

Fact: There are some diseases that become more common as we age. However, getting older does not automatically mean poor health or that you will be confined to a walker or wheelchair. Plenty of older adults enjoy vigorous health, often better than many younger people. Preventive measures like healthy eating, exercising, and managing stress can help reduce the risk of chronic disease or injuries later in life.

Myth: Memory loss is an inevitable part of aging.

Fact: As you age, you may eventually notice you don’t remember things as easily as in the past, or memories may start to take a little longer to retrieve. However, significant memory loss is not an inevitable result of aging. Brain training and learning new skills can be done at any age and there are many things you can do to keep your memory sharp. The sooner you start, the sooner you’ll reap the benefits.

Myth: You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.

Fact: One of the more damaging myths of aging is that after a certain age, you just won’t be able to try anything new or contribute to things anymore. The opposite is true. Middle-aged and older adults are just as capable of learning new things and thriving in new environments, plus they have the wisdom that comes with life experience. If you believe in and have confidence in yourself, you are setting up a positive environment for change no matter what your age.

Aging well tip 1: Learn to cope with change

As you age, there will be periods of both joy and stress. It’s important to build your resilience and find healthy ways to cope with challenges. This ability will help you make the most of the good times and keep your perspective when times are tough.

Focus on the things you’re grateful for.

The longer you live, the more you lose. But as you lose people and things, life becomes even more precious. When you stop taking things for granted, you appreciate and enjoy what you have even more.

Acknowledge and express your feelings.

You may have a hard time showing emotions, perhaps feeling that such a display is inappropriate and weak. But burying your feelings can lead to anger, resentment, and depression. Don’t deny what you’re going through. Find healthy ways to process your feelings, perhaps by talking with a close friend or writing in a journal.

Accept the things you can’t change.

Many things in life are beyond our control. Rather than stressing out over them, focus on the things you can control such as the way you choose to react to problems. Face your limitations with dignity and a healthy dose of humor.

Look for the silver lining.

As the saying goes, “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” When facing major challenges, try to look at them as opportunities for personal growth. If your own poor choices contributed to a stressful situation, reflect on them and learn from your mistakes.

Take daily action to deal with life’s challenges.

When a challenge seems too big to handle, sweeping it under the carpet often appears the easiest option. But ignoring the problem doesn’t make it go away; it allows both the problem and your anxiety to build. Instead, take things one small step at a time. Even a small step can go a long way to boosting your confidence and reminding you that you are not powerless.

Staying healthy through humor, laughter, and play

Laughter is strong medicine for both the body and the mind. It helps you stay balanced, energetic, joyful, and healthy at any age. A sense of humor helps you get through tough times, look outside yourself, laugh at the absurdities of life, and transcend difficulties. See: Laughter is the Best Medicine.

Tip 2: Find meaning and joy

A key ingredient in the recipe for healthy aging is the continuing ability to find meaning and joy in life. As you age, your life will change, and you will gradually lose things that previously occupied your time and gave your life purpose. For example, your job may change, you may eventually retire from your career, your children may leave home, or other friends and family may move far away. But this is not a time to stop moving forward. Later life can be a time of exciting new adventures if you let it.

Everyone has different ways of experiencing meaning and joy, and the activities you enjoy may change over time. If your career slows down or you retire, or if your children leave home, you may find you have more time to enjoy activities outside of work and immediate family. Either way, taking time to nourish your spirit is never wasted.

If you’re not sure where to get started, try some of the following suggestions:

Pick up a long-neglected hobby

or try a new hobby. Taking a class or joining a club or sports team is a great way to pursue a hobby and expand your social network at the same time.

Learn something new

such as an instrument, a foreign language, a new game, or a new sport. Learning new activities not only adds meaning and joy to life, but can also help to maintain your brain health and prevent mental decline.

Get involved in your community.

Try attending a local event or volunteering for a cause that’s important to you. The meaning and purpose you find in helping others will enrich and expand your life. Community work can also be a great way of utilizing and passing on the skills you honed in your career—without the commitment or stress of regular employment.

Travel somewhere new

or go on a weekend trip to a place you’ve never visited

Spend time in nature.

Take a scenic hike, go fishing or camping, enjoy a ski trip, or walk a dog in the park.

Enjoy the arts.

Visit a museum, go to a concert or a play, join a book group, or take an art appreciation class.

Write your memoirs

or a play about your life experiences

Tip 3: Stay connected

One of the greatest challenges of aging is maintaining your support network. Staying connected isn’t always easy as you grow older—even for those who have always had an active social life. Career changes, retirement, illness, and moves out of the local area can take away close friends and family members. And the older you get, the more people you inevitably lose. In later life, getting around may become difficult for either you or members of your social network.

It’s important to find ways to reach out and connect to others, regardless of whether or not you live with a spouse or partner. Along with regular exercise, staying social can have the most impact on your health as you age. Having an array of people you can turn to for company and support as you age is a buffer against loneliness, depression, disability, hardship, and loss.

The good news is that there are lots of ways to be with other people. It doesn’t matter what you do, so long as you find ways to get out of the house (if possible) and socialize:

Connect regularly with friends and family.

Spend time with people you enjoy and who make you feel upbeat. It may be a neighbor who you like to exercise with, a lunch date with an old friend, shopping with your children, or playing with your grandkids. Even if you are not close by, call or email frequently to keep relationships fresh.

Make an effort to make new friends.

As you lose people in your circle, it is vital to make new connections so your social life doesn’t decline. Make it a point to befriend people who are younger than you. Younger friends can reenergize you and help you see life from a fresh perspective.

[Read: Making Good Friends]

Spend time with at least one person every day.

Whatever your living or work situation, you shouldn’t be alone day after day. Phone or email contact is not a replacement for spending time with other people. Regular face-to-face contact helps you ward off depression and stay positive.

Volunteer.

Giving back to the community is a wonderful way to strengthen social bonds and meet others interested in similar activities or who share similar values. Even if your mobility becomes limited, you can get involved by volunteering on the phone.

Find support groups in times of change.

If you or a loved one is coping with a serious illness or recent loss, it can be very helpful to participate in a support group with others undergoing the same challenges.

Tip 4: Get active and boost vitality

Don’t fall for the myth that growing older automatically means you’re not going to feel good anymore. It is true that aging involves physical changes, but it doesn’t have to mean discomfort and disability. While not all illness or pain is avoidable, many of the physical challenges associated with aging can be overcome or drastically mitigated by exercising, eating right, and taking care of yourself.

And it’s never too late to start! No matter how old you are or how unhealthy you’ve been in the past, caring for your body has enormous benefits that will help you stay active, sharpen your memory, boost your immune system, manage health problems, and increase your energy. In fact, adults who take up exercise later in life, for example, often show greater physical and mental improvements than their younger counterparts—because they aren’t encumbered by the same sports injuries that many regular exercisers experience as they age. Similarly, many older adults report feeling better than ever because they are making more of an effort to be healthy than they did when they were younger.

Exercise

A recent Swedish study found that exercise is the number one contributor to longevity, adding extra years to your life—even if you don’t start exercising until your senior years.

[Read: Senior Exercise and Fitness Tips]

But it’s not just about adding years to your life, it’s about adding life to your years. Exercise helps you maintain your strength and agility, increases vitality, improves sleep, gives your mental health a boost, and can even help diminish chronic pain. Exercise can also have a profound effect on the brain, helping prevent memory loss, cognitive decline, and dementia.

Exercise tips for older adults

  • Check with your doctor before starting any exercise program. Find out if any health conditions or medications you take affect the type of exercise you should choose.
  • Find an activity you like and that motivates you to continue. You may want to exercise in a group, like in a sport or class, or prefer a more individual exercise like swimming.
  • Start slow. If you are new to exercise, a few minutes a day puts you well on the way towards building a healthy habit. Slowly increase the time and intensity to avoid injury.
  • Walking is a wonderful way to start exercising. Exercise doesn’t have to mean strenuous activity or time at the gym. In fact, walking is one of the best ways to stay fit. Best of all, it doesn’t require any equipment or experience and you can do it anywhere.
  • Exercise with a friend or family member. You can help to keep each other motivated and you’ll not only benefit from the physical activity, but also from the social contact as well.

Eat well

As you age, your relationship to food may change along with your body. A decreased metabolism, changes in taste and smell, and slower digestion may affect your appetite, the foods you can eat, and how your body processes food. But now, more than ever, healthy eating is important to maintain your energy and health.

[Read: Eating Well as You Age]

Avoiding sugary foods and refined carbs and loading up on high-fiber fruits, vegetables, and whole grains instead will help you feel more energetic, while eating with others is a great way to stay in touch with friends.

Get plenty of sleep

Many adults complain of sleep problems as they age, including insomnia, daytime sleepiness, and frequent waking during the night. But getting older doesn’t automatically bring sleep problems. Developing healthy sleep habits as you age can help you ensure you get enough quality sleep each night.

[Read: Sleep Tips for Older Adults]

Make sure your bedroom is quiet, dark, and cool, and your bed is comfortable. Consider using an adjustable bed to help improve your sleep position, alleviate pain, and reduce snoring.

Avoid artificial light from screens for at least one hour before bed and increase your activity levels during the day. A soothing bedtime ritual, like taking a bath or playing music can help you wind down and get a good night’s sleep.

Tip 5: Keep your mind sharp

There are many good reasons for keeping your brain as active as your body. Exercising, keeping your brain active, and maintaining creativity can actually help to prevent cognitive decline and memory problems. The more active and social you are and the more you use and sharpen your brain, the more benefits you will get. This is especially true if your career no longer challenges you or if you’ve retired from work altogether.

[Read: Preventing Alzheimer’s Disease]

Challenge your brain.

For some people, challenging your brain could involve playing new games or sports. Other people may enjoy puzzles or trying out new cooking recipes. Find something that you enjoy and challenge your brain by trying new variations or increasing how well you do an activity. If you like crosswords, move to a more challenging crossword series or try your hand at a new word game. If you like to cook, try a completely different type of food, or if you’re a golfer, aim to lower your handicap.

Vary your habits.

You don’t have to work elaborate crosswords or puzzles to keep your memory sharp. Try to work in something new each day, whether it is taking a different route to work or the grocery store or brushing your teeth with a different hand. Varying your habits can help to create new pathways in the brain.

Take on a completely new subject.

Taking on a new subject is a great way to continue to learn. Have you always wanted to learn a different language? Learn new computer skills? Learn to play the piano? There are many inexpensive classes at community centers or community colleges that allow you to tackle new subjects.

Last updated or reviewed on February 5, 2024

More Information

Helpful links

  1. Living Better, Living Longer – Taking steps now to help ensure a happier, healthier future. (Harvard Medical School Special Health Report)
  2. Aging and Health A to Z – List of articles on aging, including health problems. (Health in Aging Foundation)
  3. Health Information – Covers many aspects of aging well, including sleep, eating well, exercise, falls, and alcohol abuse. (National Institute on Aging)